tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post6196747336217961410..comments2023-09-12T01:18:01.375-07:00Comments on Condi's Hair: The Great Cohabitation Debatekarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01690274092026593186noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-19260540017568517122007-04-27T18:29:00.000-07:002007-04-27T18:29:00.000-07:00I should've added "Your mileage may vary" :)I should've added "Your mileage may vary" :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-21396734537652670092007-04-26T10:29:00.000-07:002007-04-26T10:29:00.000-07:00jon - shit.jon - shit.karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01690274092026593186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-52049019877764793082007-04-25T18:13:00.000-07:002007-04-25T18:13:00.000-07:00I'd never tell you what to do, but I've actually b...I'd never tell you what to do, but I've actually been there on this one:<BR/>Move in: 2 months<BR/>Marriage: 8 months<BR/>Get the house: 10 months<BR/>Someone burns down the house: 1 year<BR/>Someone stops coming home: 1 year 2 months<BR/>Separate rooms: 1 year 9 months<BR/>Divorce starts: 2 years<BR/>Divorce ends: 4 years<BR/><BR/>Total cost of romantic decision:<BR/>$6000 in legal fees, 75% of everything I own and 4 years of time.<BR/><BR/>They'll be plenty of time for fast moving relationships when you get into your 80's... :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-28677322371514677382007-04-23T11:50:00.000-07:002007-04-23T11:50:00.000-07:00thanks guys...all stuff to think about.thanks guys...all stuff to think about.karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01690274092026593186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-6866227575067884822007-04-22T17:11:00.000-07:002007-04-22T17:11:00.000-07:00I'm with you on # 5I'm with you on # 5Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16888125796129754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-3990442354319524162007-04-22T12:23:00.000-07:002007-04-22T12:23:00.000-07:00Well...look at it this way. Say you move into toge...Well...look at it this way. Say you move into together. If it goes well then you have a good story to tell others and are completely happy that you have someone you can go through the good and bad times with, and someone with whom you can grow old and all that mumbo jumbo...ya! more power to you! If it goes bad, then you can say you took a good risk and can teach others about the pitfuls of delusional love and how not to use a relationship as a means of trying to fill a void and to accomplish a new year's resolution. <BR/>Eh. sorry on that last one. I have 2 friends right now who got too close sorta too soon (the "gettin' to really know one another"-based, not time-based) and just acted on their intensity in their respective relationships and...welp, now they're each going through divorces. Yeah, they knew their exes for years...eh. Don't wanna get into it. Maybe I'm not the right person to comment on this...I must add I'm reading Christopher Lasch's work so I'm a bit disenchanted with the idea of "romance". <BR/>But I also agree with Macoosh that it's different for everyone. Just be sure you're not objectifying this relationship b/c you might miss out on something good whether on the inside or outside (the relationship).AxAtlashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07740336487933095091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-49406655076403442582007-04-21T03:14:00.000-07:002007-04-21T03:14:00.000-07:00i think time is different for everyone and if you'...i think time is different for everyone and if you're really feeling the moving in itch now and it's mutual and you're smart about it, do it. do it do it do it.Macooshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18323525845078246465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-17004466116407232232007-04-20T21:53:00.000-07:002007-04-20T21:53:00.000-07:00I'm with Kendra. I think 2 months is too short of...I'm with Kendra. I think 2 months is too short of a time to make that kind of decision.Jansky Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16170197934818126276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-72683404177582945972007-04-20T21:11:00.000-07:002007-04-20T21:11:00.000-07:00You are still in the "honeymoon phase" and I would...You are still in the "honeymoon phase" and I would suggest not moving in together. Devon and I dated for over a year before we moved in together and we lived in two different cities. Imagine waking up at 5am to drive three hours to go straight to work. Shitty, yes but I'm glad we waited. We got to know each other as individuals before we had to learn how to live as roommates. Living together can change sooooo much in your relationship. You only have to travel cross-town to see each other so my advice is to wait.Kendrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14881181168875337723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-33052196552978476222007-04-20T18:59:00.000-07:002007-04-20T18:59:00.000-07:00Cable and a flat screen..?What are you waiting for...Cable and a flat screen..?<BR/><BR/>What are you waiting for?!thethinkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02246687154473607332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-76127535125409592412007-04-20T12:46:00.000-07:002007-04-20T12:46:00.000-07:00jen - these are wise words. and sometimes hairspra...jen - these are wise words. and sometimes hairspray is essential for the "saucy" looks.<BR/><BR/>ax - ditto to your ditto.<BR/><BR/>laura - that's probably what we'll end up doing...there's not really room to move in with each other where we are currently.<BR/><BR/>goranas - that's actually a very logical point. weird that it came from you.<BR/><BR/>jill - methinks you've done this before. i've only lived with one boyfriend, and it was with 4 of his best friends and one bathroom...in college...so i heed your words. i really do.<BR/><BR/>oh, and really it's 8, 4 and 5 that are the most important, i think...OH and 10 of course. 10.<BR/><BR/>future - yeah, we were gonna find a place together if we made the jump...no, i won't make you help with the big stuff.<BR/><BR/>sam - this is true...and i think i might be less whiney if we do this...though i can't make any promises.karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01690274092026593186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-14668590681262098522007-04-20T11:55:00.000-07:002007-04-20T11:55:00.000-07:00I think you have decided to have him move in with ...I think you have decided to have him move in with you. As Nanas says, you'll never know until you try it. And you're already spending all your time together. <BR/><BR/>Why not, I say. Go for it lovebirds!Sam, Problem-Child-Bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650421439038979462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-80346238828413568842007-04-19T20:47:00.000-07:002007-04-19T20:47:00.000-07:00I suppose not being together every night is not an...I suppose not being together every night is not an option, I know spoken like an old married woman but the nights he has to get up so early would make me so tired I'd be sick to my stomach. And last time I looked, you are closely related to me. That can't continue. I think having him move into your house is out of the question because then your little crowded room would be claustrophobic and even Lulah wouldn't be able to find any space for her little fat body.<BR/>I could go on and on so at this point, I've decided this is a better conversation to have in person or at least by phone.The Futurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09841144178785730559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-9679540281362138732007-04-19T19:25:00.000-07:002007-04-19T19:25:00.000-07:00Let's approach this logically. If he moves in with...Let's approach this logically. If he moves in with you, that still leaves issue 2 and half of 7. If you move in with him, that totally destroys 9. I don't think all the issues should have an equal amount of weight though. Particularly 7. It's just TV. Divide by pi. Carry the 2. Subtract the savings in groceries. Add in how much easier it is for you if he moves instead of you. There. Looks like he moves in with you.<BR/><BR/>Now, the only advice I have is that before somebody moves, you should make sure that moving in together means the same thing to both of you. It's not good if one of you thinks it would just be fun to do for a while and the other thinks it's the first step towards marriage. So, talk about it.<BR/><BR/>And the only word of caution I have is this: When you live together, breaking up is a real bitch. Somebody has to find another place to live. Dividing the dishes and the CDs. Getting the phone put back in your name. The vacant, depressing house after he's gone, making you second-guess your decision to break up in the first place. Of course, this will never happen to you. I'm not suggesting that it's even remotely possible. It's just something to think about.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16927671598473871081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-86474482603381232432007-04-19T15:00:00.000-07:002007-04-19T15:00:00.000-07:00You need a big house like the one the Waltons had....You need a big house like the one the Waltons had. Big enough for him, you, your flatmate, Jim-Bob and Mary Ellen. Then you can all say cute goodnight things to each other before switching off the lights. You're obviously going to live together at some point, so you may as well give it try now and see what happens.Gorilla Bananashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13044093013423635830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-34045664673062781922007-04-19T13:32:00.000-07:002007-04-19T13:32:00.000-07:00Both of you move - get a new apartment in SE and m...Both of you move - get a new apartment in SE and move in together there. Is that not the perfect compromise? Yes, I know, I am brilliant, and you're welcome, and why yes, I would be <I>delighted</I> to have your shoes in return for my brilliant suggestion...theWaifhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12189261864352336396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-83670904429568407112007-04-19T13:28:00.000-07:002007-04-19T13:28:00.000-07:00Yeah what Jen said. Those magic 8 balls online and...Yeah what Jen said. Those magic 8 balls online and in real life are crap. Listen to yo cat!AxAtlashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07740336487933095091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13845234.post-4186148417041785742007-04-19T12:48:00.000-07:002007-04-19T12:48:00.000-07:00You do not wear hair spray. There is no way you we...You do not wear hair spray. There is no way you wear hairspray. Hairspray? Really? You have blown my mind. Anyway, the pros and cons you list are so... even. I have no idea what you should do. Just give Lulah more love, and whilst listening to the purrs of a happy fat basketball-round cat, you'll find the answer you seek. She's like an Eight Ball... with fur.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16287246032886023713noreply@blogger.com