Sunday, March 16, 2008

And then there were 4.

Kansas and I have broken up.

Jahooni, your cookies couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you.

26 keep(s) me blogging:

The Future said...

Try to focus on the good times you had and move on. Staying positive will help you get through it. I wish I could protect you from the pain but it's part of what makes us who we are.

Robert the Skeptic said...

... and cookies do indeed make the world a better place.

Jahooni said...

WHAT????????

Jahooni said...

so he gets to travel with you and then he comes back to do this? what? email me. i am going thru the same stuff but i have a wedding ring on one finger for almost 10 years! still same shit.

Jahooni said...

glad you got the cookies. i have more if needed. ;)~

Gorilla Bananas said...

I was worried this was coming after your last post. Peace be upon you.

Niall said...

Sorry to hear. Least you have cookies. They can never leave you... as long as you don't eat them.

Jackie said...

I'm sorry to hear that. Hope you're doing okay.

Kara said...

thanks guys. it was my decision...i'm just trying to get through it gracefully...and let you know why i haven't really felt like blogging.

Anonymous said...

Sorry, I stumbled upon your blog and I don't know you, but I hope you are ok. I'm sorry about the breakup.

Sam, Problemchildbride said...

It's always a sad time when a relationship breaks up. I'm sorry, Kara.

The sadness is what helps us reflect though. But you know what though? There ought to be room in a relationship to be by yourself some nights without having to worry overly about someone else not having enough to do.

Some relationships work as full-time partnerships - I have a friend who can't bear her husband not being home in the evening and, happily, he feels the same. Other people need a lot more solitary time to be truly happy. I guess part of the trick is finding someone who needs something similar to you that way.

Chin up, Sweetie-pie. You're not dysfunctional, you just haven't found the right balance with someone yet. Kansas sounded nice but if it wasn't right it wasn't right and it's useless to go on as if it was.

As Nanas said, I wish you peace, sweet girl.

x

Anonymous said...

kara - sorry to hear =(
breakups are always difficult
but hey, as we all know youre still awesome

Rachel said...

I'm sorry! I also had my suspicions since the last post. What kind of cookies--I hope with loads and loads of chocolate!!!

Stinkypaw said...

Sorry to read that, but I'm sure you'll get thru this with flying colours!

My motto: Rather be alone and happy than with someone and not so happy.

froelica said...

As others have said, I'm sorry and I hope you both are doing well.

And as I have previously said, Love is a mysterious fig.

All the best

Mary Witzl said...

I'm sorry to hear this too, Kara, and I echo what Sam says. Some people luck out and make it all look so incredibly easy. For some of us, this takes a long time.

I've just found my origami cranes. If you want them, send me an e-mail and they will soon be flying your way from Scotland.

Mary Witzl said...

Oh -- and I meant to also write that my own life has had many pinnacles. As soon as I'd sworn I'd reached THE pinnacle, another one would pop out somewhere along the way. I'm still waiting for further pinnacles.

Sarah said...

Love you Kara. I'm so sorry.

nic said...

Oh girl. That just sucks. And I'd love to tell you that it's easy to get over it, that you'll be better in the morning. But you and I are both smart enough to know it just takes some time.

I like you mom's idea of staying positive. I have a tendency to hash and rehash every reason why it didn't work out until I realize that it really wasn't right. But then the last two breakups I've been through weren't my choice, so I had to find a way to make heart understand and remind my head that it's stupid to think about anything other than washing my hands of the whole thing.

And I have to agree with mary, too, who said she's seen lots of pinnacles. It seems that the people I spend my time with are getting to be more and more amazing. And I thought Westley was the best it was ever going to get. I hope I'm wrong. And if I am, I can't see what's going to happen next, because it's going to be incredible.

Hang in there, girl. You're in my thoughts and prayers. And if you're feeling crazy, let's get in touch and get together sometime. I'll buy you some comfort food and share it with you. ;)

Orhan Kahn said...

Well, shit.

When you left a message telling me that you weren't in the right frame of mind I knew exactly what you meant before even visiting.

I am so sorry to hear the news. I just hope this is like the half dozen the missus and I have had in the last six months alone.

Besides, you're a special kind of girl. One-in-a-million. No BS. You're a little bit of alright, Kara.

Don't you go disapearing from the blogosphere. You stay strong.

Much hugs!

Kieran said...

That's crap, sorry to read that. Stay strong.

AxAtlas said...

Everything is going to be alright.

C said...

Dang. I hate to hear news like this. You have my sympathies. It especially sucks when you get all pensive about your relationship and you can practically feel the breakup coming. I'd rather get it over with quickly, like ripping off a bandage. Either way, breaking up is usually not one's preference (except for me because I'm too much of a weakling to walk away I have viewed a breakup with relief)and though it's difficult, it was probably necessary. You just need time to get comfortable with the decision and you'll be fine. Keep your head up.

EmmaK said...

Hugs to you Kara. Keep eating cookies and thinking sweet thoughts.

Susie Q said...

Kara, sweetie. I am so sorry.
Do you know how much I love you? Well, I do. You are one of my girls and always will be.
Please know I think you are amazing, and I'm not the only one who does.
God be with you.

Old Knudsen said...

I'd send you cookies but I doubt you'd be stupid enough to eat them cuming from me and all.